Monday, July 30, 2012

When You're Down Avoid...

...doing these things. Expecting a miracle or a friend to cheer you up is way out there when all you really need to do is get out of your own way. You have hoards of articles telling you what to do when you're depressed. You're about to read what not to do, which should come easier to you considering how little you want to do when you've got the blues. Read on...

Idolizing the Media

Don't watch the news, especially first thing in the morning. Channels have a way of drawing you into the emotional miasma they're trying to stir up. Reading the newspaper is comparatively tame, considering that you can block out potentially disturbing news that will do nothing to keep you up-to-date on current affairs and events.


Avoid watching disturbing programmes

That counts for anything that's emotionally disturbing. At least at this time, when the last thing you need is some singer imploring you to join them in their sadness and buy more of their music because you can really empathize with the singer. Sad songs, sad serials, sad movies, sad videos...you can watch those later when you're your upbeat self and you know you can handle them without getting reduced to a puddle. Replace with media that kindles hope within you, songs that make you feel special and the like.

Reliving the Past

You may have in the past written down about the horrid times in your life that really tested you. Re-reading those journal entries will only make those times come flooding back to you through memories and plant you firmly back in the same state of mind that you were in those difficult times.

Unless it's something like this. Via Funny Diary Entries

 

Mingling with Dirty, Rotten, Scoundrels

Keep away from persons you know are only out to make themselves look good at your cost. If possible, be ready with comebacks.

Nourishing the Pain

Don't feed the pain. Observe it. You're not your feelings so don't identify with them so much that you forget that they're just feelings. Someone wise on the internet once said "Feelings are like waves. We can't stop them from coming but we can choose which ones to surf".


Dressing Down. Every Day

The better you dress, the more pride you'll have in yourself & the less dependent you'll be on others for compliments to make you feel good. If you win over the person who's the most important in making you look good - yourself - you're good to go. Others tend to believe your view of yourself since they have so little time & patience to intricately observe you & make positive judgments.

Though, beware of advertisements riding on taglines such as 'cutting edge' fashion.

Self-Pity

Five words: Don't give in to it.

Becoming an Island

There's nothing like pushing people away and being by yourself all the time to bring on overthinking.

Taking it Personally

Don't take it personally. You're only human, you have your flaws and so do other people. Learn how to react to their negative behaviour - be it anger, put-downs, jealousy, offended, offensive or  implications. Ultimately, we have no control over others' behaviors. By internalizing this, you've put the overbearing/inappropriate person on a pedestal. You really want to do that?





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